These are the 5 resiliency and mental toughness tips I have learned and practised that have helped me keep my thoughts, words, and actions positive.
Two events from my childhood helped me learn what I consider to be my most important lesson about living positively through my challenges.
One of those lessons came when my mom started going on medical mission trips to Honduras. She would come back and tell myself and my sisters about the living conditions in a third world country. We also saw pictures of what a poverty stricken village looks like. This was in the 1980's and pictures were not as readily available as they are today and so I had not really seen true images of extreme poverty.
The other lesson I learned as a kid was from my parents sponsoring a World Vision child. From that I learned that 40% of the world's population lives on less than $2 per day. Now, you and I are really nice people, however, how come we get to live somewhere where you can read this internet page versus someone who lives on less than $2 per day.
Because of my 46 years of living with the 24/7 aches and pains from Rheumatoid Arthritis, along with my physical limitations, I read stories about and interview people who are way worse off then I am physically and yet who are more successful or doing more with their lives than I am.
Two of those people are Kyle Maynard and John Robinson, both born without any arms or legs.
Kyle Maynard won over 60 wrestling matches in high school and has climbed Mount Kilimanjaro.
John Robinson is a husband and father as well as an author and speaker. He started an organization called Our Ability to help people with disabilities find jobs. He was inspired to do that because it took him 4 years after he finished university to get a job.
People like Kyle and John inspire me to do the very best I can with my physical challenges and limitations.
This principle was really reinforced to me when I read the book A Complaint Free World by Will Bowen. I already rarely complained before I read the book and the complaint free days challenge I did helped cement the concept of not complaining.
Let me tell you what the definition of complaining that Bowen means. Complaining is talking about something you would prefer was different. Wow! That is a tough one. For example, if on a blistering hot day you say "I really liked the dinner but it needed more spices and wasn't cooked enough" that is a complaint. Also, if you point out someone else complaining that is a complaint as well.
Living this way, when you first start practising it can be difficult. What are you going to talk about that will be complaint free? If you do think about and practise this it becomes MUCH easier with time and pretty soon you will rarely initiate or participate in negative, complaining discussions.