I learned About Happiness Now! from Tony Rubleski, Founder of Mind Capture Group and LOVED the book.
Here are some of the notes I underlined while I was reading. I hope they help you.
"...judging from our day-to-day conversations with friends, family members and colleagues, no one is happy. Either that, or if they are, they’re certainly not letting on. ‘How are you?’ we ask, when we greet one another. The replies arrive thick and fast – ’Not bad’, ‘Not so bad’, and ‘Not too bad’. Some slightly more creative people say: ‘Could be better.’ ‘Could be worse.’ ‘Holding up.’ ‘Oh, so-so.’ ‘Fair to middlin’.’ ‘Hangin’ in there.’ ‘Surviving.’ ‘Can’t complain.’ ‘Okay.’ ‘I’m still here.’ ‘Don’t ask.’ ‘Getting by.’ ‘Keeping my head above water.’ ‘Hanging by a thread.’ ‘No news is good news.’ ‘Not dead yet.’ How about that! I call this type of inane conversation ‘not-so-badder-itis’. It’s like a ‘near-life experience’. as opposed to a ‘near-death experience’, in that there’s no happiness, no sadness, no commitment, no nothing."
"...happiness challenges us to make peace with ourselves."
"The search for happiness has brought with it much unhappiness."
"Indeed, the source of all our fears is the erroneous belief that happiness is somewhere else."
"...the pursuit of happiness becomes the goal rather than happiness itself."
"...as we become even more strongly addicted to the pursuit of happiness, we are in no way prepared for happiness when it arrives."
"It has been my experience that behind every pain, illness and form of unhappiness there is, hard at work, a fearful, relentless level of self-judgment – a distinct lack of love and acceptance that perpetuates and complicates symptom after symptom. We don’t get ill when we’re wholly joyous because our joy is free of fear and judgment."
"...the belief in ‘not being good enough’ is your ego’s greatest addiction."
Often, the first step to healing is to understand that no amount of war wounds increases your innate worth. In other words ... you have to relinquish your identity as a ‘sufferer’, a ‘victim’, or an ‘ex-addict’ in ‘recovery’ if you’re going to be happy.
it’s not suffering that brings about enlightenment ... it’s the decision to give up suffering that brings about enlightenment.
Happiness is present time – it has nothing to do with the future.
Sometimes, as the French novelist Marcel Proust once wrote: ‘The voyage of discovery lies not in finding new landscapes, but in having new eyes.’
‘Happiness is being spontaneously available to your spirit.’
"Wisdom isn’t judgment; wisdom is the relinquishment of judgment. Can you see that whenever you judge anyone or anything, you are the one who experiences the effect of the judgment? This is what is meant by the saying ‘Judge not that ye may not be judged.’"
"You may be upset at your partner, but it is your mind that is unsettled. Judgment condemns and punishes everyone, including ‘ye’ who judges."
"Second, to give up judgment, you only have to understand that you don’t know enough about anything to make an accurate judgment. In other words, all your judgments are half-baked opinions and not whole truths."
"In life there are, broadly speaking, three routes marked ‘Happiness’, but only one of these routes can take you all the way. The three routes are: (1) the ‘Doing Route’, (2) the ‘Having Route’, and (3) the ‘Being Route’."
"Swiss psychologist Carl Jung who wrote: ‘Most of the people I see suffer not from physical illness, but from spiritual aimlessness. They have lost their aim. They have lost sight of who they really are and what is really valuable.’"
Happiness NOW! is a truly powerful and radical exploration of one of life’s most treasured goals. Packed with rich insights and practical wisdom, It offers a message of profound hope and healing for a generation that is often too busy chasing happiness to be truly happy.
Robert Holden, Ph.D., presents a personal, warm, and entertaining account of how he developed his pioneering work with The Happiness Project. Using a highly creative mix of stories, exercises, meditations, poetry, and prayer, Robert shares his distinctive philosophy and practice of “the how of happiness.”
The greatest pain of all is the fear that happiness might somehow elude us forever; the greatest joy of all is the realization that the potential for happiness is available to us now and always.